"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow.'" - Mary Ann Radmacher
The love that a parent has for their child is unmatched. In the best of circumstances, the day to day obligations, worries and challenges can seem overwhelming at times. But then out of the ordinary difficulties arise. Maybe your child has been diagnosed with potentially life threatening illness, is managing a chronic illness or your child is facing developmental or mental health adversity. Well intended family and friends try to help you “look on the bright side.” Or say such things as “God won’t give you give more than you can handle.” While the intentions of our loved ones are pure, it can push you into feeling isolated, overwhelmed, frustrated. It’s also easy in these circumstances to feel judged or incompetent. Often times relationships with others can be difficult, as they share their day to day struggles, which can feel so minor and silly to you.
Maybe you are asking yourself such questions as:
Do I have the ability to care for my child?
What is happening to my other my children while all my time, energy and focus is directed on managing the challenges of parenting our medically fragile child?
Will life ever be “normal?”
Can I do this?
Is my child going to be okay?
It is not uncommon for parents managing their child’s complex medical, mental health or developmental needs to experience physical pain, increased isolation, loneliness, anxiety/panic attacks and difficulty in their relationships with loved ones.
I believe that in order to parent well and to be able to manage situations of crisis, we first have to take care of ourselves. Airline attendants instruct us when we are flying with children to first put on our own oxygen mask, before our child’s, in the event the cabin loses oxygen. Our initial reaction is to first attend to our child, but if we are incapacitated, how can we care for adequately care for anyone else? Let’s take a moment together to get you some oxygen, attend to your needs, so you can thrive in your role as caretaker and parent.
My role in the process is to hear and allow you a safe place to think these thoughts out loud. To assist you in finding ways forward, to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and getting out of the rabbit holes of self doubt. There are no magic wands to fix what you might be facing, but there are ways in which we can ensure that you have the tools and resources to take care of yourself so can manage take care care of your family in the manner you hope to.
I would be honored to assist you in this process. I offer non-traditional hours to ensure that you can meet your family, work and household obligations while pursuing counseling. In addition, I offer tele-therapy (online, secure counseling) so that you do not have leave your home or work place to accommodate these appointments. Please feel free to contact me and set up a free telephone consultation.